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Opportunities Missed by Fear of unknown and Hesitation

Fear of unknown and hesitation miss many opportunities in life. From love to comfort many un-availed things are missed out in life.

If we express our love, the girl would have accepted. She may be waiting for your courting. But we may hide our emotions and feelings because of many imaginative fears. But, at the same time we keep boiling our desire. We act like we are brother to the girl, but we romance in dreams. It is like, we have a chocolate in our mouth, but we do not swallow it or we do not spite it out.

If we apply for the job, we could have got it, but we do not apply for big jobs/post with big salary. But we hesitate with lot of complex. We satisfy with our self with how we are now, due to many sentiments, our convenient logic. If we ask for the promotion or hike, we will be given, but we do not ask, instead of asking, we wait for our boss to do it. The boss may be busy with some other issues. Your due may not be his first priority, but he aware that you deserve the hike/promotion. We may like to do something, but we do not do immediately. We wait for some good time to do. Like that you Boss may be. If we ask we could have it.

At the same time, we should not expect our expressed desire/demand should be done immediately. It may be executed immediately or later on or denied. Our duty is express. Whether we make request or not that is in our control, but the response is not in our control. We should be ready to accept the response, whatever may be. But we should express.

If you keep bottle necking your desire to get hike/promotion, the end will be beginning at another office. If you have ventilated your pressures, you could be comfortable in the current office.

The opportunity we miss, which will haunt our mind for long time, than opportunity we availed. If I asked, If I asked – this murmur will continue till you sleep in coffin. Even if you ask and your request is rejected, that will affect you for the moment. But missing due to non-expression will torture you for long time. If you try, you may succeed or fail, but you will be in peace. If you do not try, you will loose your peace.

A man, who had love with woman, will not be obsessed by her; woman to whom he had requested but denied will not obsess him. But, he will be obsessed by woman to whom he had not expressed his love.

Kill the fear of unknown, inferiority complex, and hesitation. Dare to realize your dream and desire the best. You deserve to be best. Ask your best.

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Obsessed with Ideas

I meet two people with many Ideas, They have quest to achieve something in the Internet. They keep thinking about many innovative concepts. One guy explained his idea to me. I asked my doubts, while clarifying my doubts he get another idea. They he tried to jump to his new idea. But I forced him to stay with the idea he was explaining. His head seems to be business model factory.

I am not sure whether this is creativity or any problem/stress in the mind. Because, for many years they are living with their ideas. Idea produces more ideas. The problem is none of the idea in their head gets executed practically. They keep stuffing their head by ideas. But nothing gets de-stuffed. Idea in its own abstract form can not succeed. It needs to be practically implemented.

Which stop them from executing their ideas? If they have executed any one idea and stick to it, then things will be different from now. Two things stop implementing the ideas. Lack of confidence and lack of belief on the Idea. Feverishness or mental obsess about the idea also prevent the action at the same time urging for action. It reaches a stage of Action constipation. Third reason is the idea is beyond their capacity to execute.

If they are in any one stage or more, they dont act practically, but keep thinking about the idea, keep speaking about the idea, and keep producing ideas. They like all their ideas and want to implement all. They will have bottle neck of time and resource and confidence. Nothing will be implemented

They did not earn single bit of currency from their ideas. But they keep boasting their ideas to others and enjoy the oral appreciation from the innocent listeners. They like the listeners but not the executioners. Because they do not like their ideas to be executed by others.

Many people are wasting their time and mental energy to be obsessed with ideas. Real idea will blossom like flower and you will not be obsessed with other ideas. Focus on only one thing, which will definitely give result either positive or negative or at least your mind will be free from more ideas.

Implement what comes to your mind. Definitely you will earn either money or knowledge or both. At least, you stop suffering from new ideas. Choose what is best and what you can do and stick to it. Implement it; certainly there will be a positive result: money, knowledge, or no more ideas and you will wake up from your world of ideas. Once you realize the pain of implementation, you will dare to come out with another idea.

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Be Confident when your colleague is Fired or Terminated

Relax, Be cool and calm, and be positive, if the company you are working is firing your next sitting colleague. Just be cool and relaxed. Be detached. Do not get angry with company or do not have pity at your colleague. No need for having emotions in this issue. Use your brain than emotions.

Do not get fear as you may be fired. Just be cool. Birth and death are not your control. Many things are in divine control. So just relax. You do not know, you will join this company few years back. You are not going to work permanently here. Some day you also have to leave, the reason may be anything. But you must exit. As long as you are working here, have courage to say not, when you have to say. Do not work too hard or strain yourself. Work what you can. Keep your temper always cool. Never get tension and never get fear.

Your company is not the end of the world. World is a big market with lot of varieties. The colleague who is fired will be in a better position than the current. It is foolish to have the illusion that your colleague’s life is over. This is mind’s negative imagination. As long s/he confident, enthusiastic, and positive, s/he can find a niche in the job market. Just relax. Termination or retirement is just another event in life. See it simply. There is life after layoff.

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Job change due to Consultancy

Job changing is also happening due to consultancy screwing. Highly profiting business is head hunting.

When you do not have an intention to change or you like to continue in the current company, you will receive consultancy calls like anything. If you are skilled and potential candidate and you are in booming and growing industry, then you may receive 3 to 5 consultancy calls per day. If your resume is short listed by the client of the consultancy then you are hot.

A female with a charming voice or a male with a highly professional and cordial voice will contact over your mobile phone. They will tell that their Prestigious client has a vacancy which best suit your profile. Prestigious client will pay more than what is your CTC (Cost to Company) and etc. If you listen their pitching and get oscillated slightly, you will be tossed like anything.

When you attend the interview with their prestigious client, you will find which may be smaller than your current company.

If you are in India and in software industry, you will be told that an American or Canadian or Australian or any foreign client is waiting for you to conduct the interview. H/She liked your resume very much. Moreover H/She will be catching the flight by today or tomorrow evening. So you suppose to attend the interview as early as possible, otherwise you will miss a Golden Opportunity.

If you attend the interview in hurry burry (get permission from current office by telling a lie), you will be received by a typical Indian, who is with full of ego and high handed behavior as Interviewer. He will have fleeting glance over your resume. Then he will ask the traditional question, Tell about yourself. Though your resume has important things about you, you have to answer this question.

I do not join the company, who asked the traditional question, which is not any way helpful if you are a technical person. Within a week, the prestigious client of your consultancy will contact you directly. The consultancy will be skipped.

One time, a consultancy call was pitching about a CMM level company. I asked is it possible to get 100% hike from my current CTC. Consultancy said it will discuss with the company. Then they contacted me again and said that salary was not an issue. When I attend the interview that CMM level company, said my current CTC is beyond their budget.

CMM Level and big MNCs are numerous like petty shop or tea shops nowadays.

If you are in dilemma when replying to consultancy in the first call, there are chances you may change the job without your interest.

Changing the company for 10 to 30 percent hike is not good in case you are already settle down in your current company.

Their next strategy is making you attend the interview is, make yourself committed. They snatch the word from your mouth and convey that they have informed and confirmed to their client. So if you fail to attend interview you may have guilty feeling. So you will attend the interview to keep your word.

Consultancy is also one of the reasons for salary hike. They always tell you that you will get more than current CTC. It is very rare you move to another company without change in pay.

Quick job hopping is not good for both you and your employers. If you everything going well, stay in a company for minimum one year and maximum 2 to 3 years. But do not continue for more than 3 years in the same company. This is not good for both you and your employer.

Do not be scapegoat for consultancy enticement. Unless you personally decide to move to another company never listen consultancy pitching. Ignore at the first call.

Consultancy is charging you it is not because you are skilled and qualified. It is because your industry is good. There may be a booming or great demand. It is seller’s market – Employee’s market.

If you industry is not good then you have to chase consultancy. I remember that few years back, I charged consultancies; even I paid to register with them. They will conduct a mock interview too. That time was buyer’s market – employer’s market. Now things changed, main reason is industry is good and growing. Soon you may be paid to attend interviews.

You dodge consultancy or consultancy dodge you, nothing depends on you or consultancy. It is the market decides everything. Your experience, skill, and everything will be counted if your industry is good.

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Good and Bad of Career

Every man in this world must earn for their bread and butter. We should work or do something to meet out our needs. Depending upon the educational or skill set we earn. The modern world called it as ‘Career’. Every one should have a career, whether your pay cheque is for $1 or $100000 or more. You may be a manager at MNC or house keeping staff in a MNC, everything is career.

Our life style has two boundaries. Before starting a career and after starting a career.

Before starting a career we are free birds. Read the books we like, roamed anywhere at anytime. Chatting, laughing with our friends. Day or night has no restriction for our enjoyment. We have lot of games. We play many indoor and outdoor games. No hesitation, no fear. Mind is not obsessed with anything. No need to think about what is next. See all the movies. Watch or enjoy the beauties of girls in our sphere. Lots of bear parties. Those who are interested in particular game or activity, dedicate their whole time for it.

It is a state of consciousness, where your mind is free from time restriction, no fear about failure. Mind is highly energetic. No tension. It is a life with out commitment. You can move, turn, and change any way you like. You have full freedom and power in driving your life.

When the evil hands of career trapped you, first thing you lost is your freedom. You are forced to read book related to improve your career. Second thing you loose your friends. Career throws the friends to different corner of the world. I remember my father searched and meet his village, school, college friends after his retirement. Once you are caught by career you will loose your contacts with your friends slowly.

Then you loose your ownership to your time. Something or somebody will be the owner of your time. Whatever may be your pay cheque, what level of (high profile or low profile) designation you have, the core activity of your career is selling the time. Without selling your time you can not enroll into a career.

Your interest is coffined. Whether you like or do not like you have to do the responsibilities piled on your head. You loose the freedom to say No when you like to say no.

You can choose your friend but you can not choose your colleague, you have to adjust with your colleagues.

Fun and play or games are completely removed from your life. It is very rare to find people who are playing the games which they played in their teen ages or before trapped by career. You do not have time and you do not have teammates to join with you. Everybody is in shortage of time and running on heels for the sake of career. All the pleasures of youth are gone.

Career does not like the free mind. It keeps filling the mind with targets. It will obsess you with the ‘next thing’ to be done. What is next is always hooking your head. The job consciousness is forcibly stuffed in you head. You can not de-stuff it even after your retirement, since you will not have anything to fill other than your career.

Career sees you as a resource. You are a resource to execute some task or to be utilized. You are committed to career.

The tyrant career keeps you as its slave. But look at your children or any dependents you have, especially who are in their pre-career stage. They enjoy their life because of you. You have mortgaged yourself for them. They live to the full spirit like how you lived when your father or guardian surrender to career. You enjoyed your youth because your parent surrendered to career. Now, its your turn for the sake of your children or dependents.

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Have Involvement to Succeed in your Office

Involvement is one of the important attitudes for success.

When people are required to work as team, only those who are getting involved will inspire and lead others. If more number of individuals get involved in a team then it will out perform the opposition.

The good example is cricket match. Eleven people in a team. Two teams have to combat. All the eleven guys are not performing well up to their ability. All players in a team will not be satisfied with their performance. Even some may not have chance to play. Even they win or loose some are satisfied and many are not satisfied. Cricket is the only game where all the guys playing in a match can not be happy or satisfied even they won. Those who are batted well or bowled well and lead the team to victory will be happy; others who did not bat or bowl well will not be happy even their team wins, may be acting or managing as being happy.

If you play the game (cricket) you can realize it. If you bat well, but your team lost, still you will be happy by your individual performance. Your team wins but you did not bat well, then you will be disappointed personally. This is applicable from street cricket to International cricket.

Involvement is the main factor for individual performance and satisfaction while working in team. Depending upon the level of involvement your chances of performing well will get increased. More involvement leads to more performance.

Any type of team-work from software development to war fare need involvement from its collection of individuals to succeed. Involvers contribute more; get more credits then those who are not involved. Involvers get more return, benefits, fame than ‘Un-involvers’. Involvers move to front, un-involvers pushed behind

All the people who have interest are not given equal opportunity to get involved. From cricket to software development and from politics to war fare opportunity to grow is in-equal. People who have influence and management support and able to express ‘themselves’ are given the opportunity first. Some time they steal the opportunity of others. Rarely opportunity is left open to people who are skilled but inferior in ‘politics’ after superior people failed to perform well.

Even you get the opportunity to involve, you have skills but you must have good time, positive mindset, above all God’s grace. Involvement, Opportunity, skill, and ‘timing’ all should work in a sequence.

In the above features involvement is the most important thing. Those who are trying to involve alone get the opportunity or snatch the opportunity or create opportunity. For others opportunity will be given when ‘not used’. Even you have God’s grace but you are not involving then no way to utilize God’s grace.

Your quest to grap the opportunity to get involved is very important to succeed any where and every where. If you hesitate or wait for your turn, then if involvers failed by their bad time, then you will be given the ‘unused’ or ‘forced’ opportunity. But it is very rare, because the hunger of an involver is more intense than non-involvers.

So involve with a positive mindset that you will perform well and succeed and grab the first opportunity to succeed.

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Surrendering to God reduce Stress and Fear

Surrendering to God reduce Stress and Fear

After developing an attitude of surrendering to God, I feel comfortable. My stress and fear level reduced. Soon it will be completely removed.

I was searching for people, incidents, works which give stress and tension to me. But later on I realized stress and fear in not outside. There are inside me. It is an attitude and personification problem. We do not have control over outside things. But we can control how we react. Our wrong responses are main reason for stress.

Every human has his/her own value system to life. Our value system, faith, belief everything matters. If your fundamental value system is wrong then you are prone to stress.

Surrendering to God is the best way to solve problems which gives your stress. If you are able to solve, it will not be a stress to you. It is a stress because; it is beyond your control. Even you juice your brain you can not do anything for things beyond your control. Developing an attitude of surrendering to God has great result in getting rid of stress and fear.

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Live without any Fear

Live without any Fear

Live without any Fear. Fear is like a Break to a vehicle. Courage is an accelerator to a vehicle. Do not keep pressing the break then vehicle can not move. At the same time you cannot drive without applying accelerator. Both break and accelerator must be needed to drive a vehicle.

Whether you fear or do not fear, nothing is in your control. Universe will go on its own way, whether you fear or not. Fear is a state of mind or negative conscious which expects only negative. Life is full of uncertainties. Nothing is permanent. Everything including the world is perishable. You can not stop anything. You can not make anything. Have an attitude of let them go is best way to deal the life.

When we have fear our dreams, our speech, our action, and our behaviors are in a different manner than if we do not have fear. Fear stops you live happily. Certain fears are foolish; fear for death, fear for illness, fear for failures are stupid fears. When death, decease, failure come no one can stop it. You do not need to fear for such things, which you do not have control over them.

You can feel the difference when you act with fear and act without fear.

Example: You save some percentage of your current salary as a security to future. This is because of the fear of uncertainty about the future. But God comes to you and confirms that no need to fear about future. Your economy will be prosperous and you will have consistent income for the next hundred years. Then will you save money from your salary or spend fully. Those who have ‘fear of future’ save money for future. Remember you do not have control over next second.

How do kill the fear? Action cures fear. If you fear for driving, keep driving is the only way to cure the driving phobia. When you have fear of death strongly believe or keep saying mentally as you will live long, when fear of decease comes keep saying mentally as you will live healthy. When fear of failure comes, keep saying you will win. A positive pep talk or thought have great impact. Counter your fear with courage. Stop the negative by positive.

Fear is not out side, it is in the thoughts. It is the thoughts which maintain the fear as cauldron. If you change your thoughts, fear will disappear. If you fill your head with courage, you show courage. If you fill your head with romance, you reflect romance. If you fill your head with fear, you reflect fear. But whatever you reflect, life goes on its own way. Life does not bother what you stuff in your head. So it is better to fill the head with tranquility. Fill the head with a sense of well being.