Stress in Decision Making

Taking decision is not stress free. If we postpone taking decision, our stress level will increase. Actually decision making is stressful if we don’t have sufficient data.

Decision by Fact vs Hypothesis
When we have facts, we do not need to take decision, because facts will tell what to do. When we do not have facts, we have to make decision by hypothesis.

To take decision we need bravery rather than intelligence. Of course intelligence is must, but bravery is best for taking decision. The decision making ability is must for an administrator. It needs for all human being, but for administrator it is essential.

Foregone decision must be avoided. Decision according to situation or circumstance is best. Circumspect is a man of decision. He knows the decision to be taken according to the environment.

Worrying after taking decision is useless and foolish. It is better to think thousand times before taking decision. But decision should not be retreated after embracing it. It is impossible like recalling an arrow after bowing it. Like words, decision is a slave to us before taking it. After taking decision, it will be our master.

Taking decision is the one of the major ingredients of leadership quality. A leader without the ability to take decision is like a pen without nip.

We should not expect all our decision would be right. To take a right decision, it needs larger experience and greater analytical power. Out of two analytical is important. Do not worry about the wrong decision, because right decision can be taken from the experience gained at wrong decision.

It is best to take right decision. It is acceptable to take wrong decision. But, it is worst of all to be indecisive rather than taking decision.
While taking decision do not be worrying as it may go at astray. Do not fear to take decision. Decision must be taken at any cost. Right decision makers are like winners in the game. Wrong decision makers are like runners in the game. ‘Indecisivers’ are spectators to the game. So take decision when and where it is to be taken.

There are very rare and few circumstance when decision should not be taken.
A problem is solved by a right decision. It is left as it is by indecision. But become worse by wrong decision. In such situation it is better to avoid taking decision. Time can solve many problems.

First, find out whether this situation/problem really needs a decision/solution. If it is true, take the decision without hesitation. If it is not true then leave it as it is. Whether to take decision or not is also a decision.

Hitler Concentration Camps are back

Hitler’s concentration camp is re-created in Companies when they plan for layoff or downsizing or head count reduction.

If you work in such company, you know that everyday will be a nightmare. You hear rumors saying, 5% lay off, 10% lay off, suddenly 30% lay off or total shutdown.

Fear, rumors, anxiety are the prevailing moods in companies when they become concentration camps.

Everyday you work is your lucky day. You are survived by one more day. Nobody knows who is next, but everybody fears. Some try to establish rapport with their managers, believing that they will be secured. Poor guys, they do not know, manager is also an employee, he is too subjected to downsizing.

Many quit, because of fear of being fired. They want to join to other companies before being pinked.

You should know how to handle your fear, anxiety. Otherwise, you will quit by fear of lay off, when there are chances you may be retained.

Fragile and empty showcase of big corporates are exposing now. All these have direct impact on professional colleges and indirect impact on people’s value system over education and job market.

Funny thing is in spite of all these fragility, still corporate employees are prey to loan market. Failure of corporate will have severe impact on banking industry.

Praising the Past

I see many old people who praise the past and frustrate with the present.

“Those days were paradise, clean air, no scarcity, people were good and honest, women were obedient. But nowadays everything is deteriorated compare to the past, the whole life is machine….”

But truth is every grown up man has positive view about his past and negative view about his current days. Men belong to all the centuries feel the same.

I read few short stories of ‘Pudumaipittan’, (Tamil literature). The stories I read were written around the life and society of Tamilnadu, especially Madras/Chennai during second world war (Before Independence). Pudumaipittan criticize the poverty, hypocrisy of the society. In between lines he satires the politicians of his day. The society he depicted is not much different from my society in terms of attitude towards fellow human being.

Apart from the scientific progress through the centuries, Human attitude is not changed in all the times.

Praising the past is meaningless, apart from technological comforts to those who can avail it, the past and the present are same in the attitude towards life. If past were paradise, no need for Bhudda or Mahavira and other spiritual leaders.

Why still people praise the past? It has to be studied in different view.

If you watch the kids or boys or youths, they do not praise the past. They enjoy the present. when the same youngsters, grow up as middle age or old people they started praising the past. At least they praise their boyhood and youthful periods.

So, praising the past is psychological rather than living standard or life style issue.

For everybody till their youth life is carefree. The overall mood is happiness. From middle age onwards commitment, needs, chasing the time and stress are become ingredients of life. The overall mood is frustration, a sense of disgruntled.

Those who enjoy the current life never praise the past. Those who last the happiness in current life, think old is gold.

No kid or boy or youngster praise the past.

Solar Current

I am charged by Solar Current. After realty, I am tempting to jump in Solar Electricity.

Ten years back, I was hijacked by Web Application wave. 6 Years back I eloped with “Blogging”. Two years back my mantra become Realty.

Like Sea is having ‘water currents’ in different directions at various depths, everybody’s life has different current, sometime ‘drifting’ too.

We should be very careful before ‘Slipping’ into a current. I decided not to Slip into this Solar current. After spending 8 to 10 hours in the office, I could not afford for anything other than this ‘partial writing’ or blogging. Weekends – OOPs – lot of lessons from the past how to use weekends. Weekends are very precious in my life.

I do not have time and money to research with Solar current. If any company/individual innovates something and sell a Solar domestic plant, I could buy it if it is affordable to me. Other than this stand, trying to innovate or create something to reduce Solar plant cost or increase its productivity from 15% are not possible to my life style.

Buy a domestic Solar plant if affordable to me. That’s it.

I was lost away by many current in the past. Every current drop me somewhere at the end. It give me some knowledge. experience to me. Both good and bad experience.

Running Free Internet Classifieds – Browme.com, was a failure, but it gave me a career, earnings, salary to have a decent living.

Blogging is utter flap as of now, but I know everything about blogging now. Last year, I earned ‘peanuts’ from my blog through Google Adsense. Indeed, it helped me to pay my daughter’s school fee. It does not cover whole fee, but covered mostly.

Realty is neither failure or success, but I bought a 2BHK flat in Chennai outskirts, and a piece of land in my native place.

Whenever I come across a current, I jumped immediately without thinking. Now, I consciously decide to avoid Solar Current. I may go for a Solar Lamp, Charger in a Slow Phased manner as middle class consumer. That’s it.

We can not stop depending on GRID all of a sudden. Moreover, Solar buzz in my district(Tamilnadu) will disappear once the ‘drama’ at Koodangulam atomic power plant is over.

Is this Though Required Now?

Is this thought required now? Have you question your thought like this?

There are countless loosely coupled thought originating in a day. Many or all of them are not required.

Whenever I have a stream of thoughts, I question them, Are they required now? Logically, the answer is NO. I am not referring ‘day dreams’. I am talking about stream of thoughts or racing thoughts which stir our emotions and leading to action. Later we feel guilty for behaving like that.

Day dreams do not force us to act. Any thought, which are capable of binding with emotion, have high chances of getting into action than day dreams.

We have such kind of unnecessary thoughts, and we will end up unnecessary actions and unnecessary consequences.

When, I started questioning my ‘emotion packed thoughts‘, I realize they are not needed at all.

My physical energy level increased when I stop the racing thoughts. I do not know the relationship between physical energy and thoughts.

I am not emotionally hijacked when I avoid the thoughts bind with emotion.

Emotions suck body energy. When we are emotionally balanced more energy retained in the body.

Avoiding unnecessary thoughts, avoid unnecessary emotions, which avoid energy loss.

To by physically energetic, ask yourself, Is this thought required now.

Mood Cycling

Mood Cycling is a psychological disease. It create genius as well as people who faced debacle. The reason for cyclic mood may be anything like chronicle depression, loss of nutrition and etc. It can be treated by consulting a psychologist.

Many people live with depression or cyclic mood problems without knowing that it is a disease happened to mind like other diseases happened to body.

People affected by “cyclic mood”, hang an in a mood without any valid reason and suddenly swift to other or opposite mood without valid reason.

Throughout our life we are traveling between moods. We stop at ‘happiness’ if any of our expectation happened. If anything happened opposite to our expectation we move to ‘sadness’.

If somebody is better performing than our self, we move to ‘hate’ and hang in jealous mood.

We move to ‘FEAR’ mood, if our life or our beloved ones life, or our career, job or our social status is at risk.

If our beloved one dies, we move into depression.

If our day to day life, the incidents happening around us and how we are reacting to the happenings are taking us to a mood. We hang on in the mood for a while. By another incident we are taken to another mood.

I was in sadness yesterday. Today by some incident, I move to happiness. Tomorrow by some incident, I will move to romantic mood. Day after tomorrow, I may move to depression by another incident.

The incidents may be countless, but the unique list of moods we get in our life time will be not more than 20.

Happiness, sadness, jealous, aversion, love, sexy, romantic, fear, angry, dullness, confidence, guts and etc. You can add your moods into the list.

We do not have control in which mood to dwell in. Our environment and incidents happening around us decide in which mood we should be.

You can not be happy or joyful when you travel in Chennai’s metro bus(Pallavan) in peak hours. It is crowded and congested. The bus swallow the passengers two to three times more than its normal capacity.

If you are standing inside the bus, you will be squeezed, you will be suffocating. You can not be joyful while traveling in such condition. You are in stress.

You will be in ‘romantic’ mood if your girl friend or lover traveling with you in the crowded bus. Here both will be in romantic mood.

All of a sudden, you move to ‘happiness’ or a sense of relief mood if you get a seat by chance in such traveling.

Same bus, same crowd but we can ‘travel from mood to mood’.

The default mood of a traveling in a crowded bus in peak hours can be overcome by additional activities.

You can overcome the travel stress by jumping into ‘serious’ discussion with co-passengers. I often do this.

It is natural that human is cycling through moods. But how a cyclic mood or “mood cycle” can be a disease.

1) No bad things happened to you, but you are sad.

2) You have come to sad mood by some incident. You are not able to shift to other moods. You stay in sad mood for longer period or forever irrespective of things happening around you.

It’s time to meet psychologist.

Enthusiasm is the best mood. It helps to over come fear of unknown, fear of failure, and propel us to achieve goals with unknown end. It helps to come out of failure, frustration and depression and any negative mood.

Do you know, what is your default mood?

Does default mood exist?

I do not know that what is the default mood or first mood of man when he born, mood of a baby in womb, mood of just born baby.

But, I pray to God to let the ‘Enthusiasm’ be my default mood.

What is Idol Worship as per Quran

What is Idol worship as mentioned by Quran. Even many muslims think statue worship is Idol Worship. Which is absolutely wrong.

Idol worship not only related to worshiping statues or images or symbols alone. Even if you symbolizes anything as God the almighty, which may be accepted.

As per Quran, anything which occupies your mind more often than God is Idol Worship.

If you think of money and doing business for money like anything, money becomes your God. Doing business for making more money rather than meeting out your basic needs. It is Idol Worship.

Someone cheated you. You get angry with him. Days and nights you think of the person who cheated you. You imagine how can you retaliate. Nothing is more important to you than revenging him. Now the person who cheated you is your God. He occupies your mind more than anything in twenty four hours a day. Now you are committing the sin Idol Worship as mentioned by Quran.

Anything which occupies your mind for longer period and often is your God.

If you allow anything to fill your mind other than God, you are committing Idol Worship.

You have decease. If you always thinking and worrying about the decease, the decease is your God. you are worshiping the Decease.

You have some fear. You always speaks about your fear, you always act by your fear, thoughts of fear haunting you like anything. Now fear is your God. You are worshiping Fear. This is Idol worshiping.

If your brother or sister or children or friend or relative died unexpectedly. You keep thinking about the died person and sulk in depression. Now the died person is your God. You are worshiping the death soul.

You get a good job with high salary. You always proclaim your job and salary proudly. Your body language reflects your job and the richness. You move with the people, speak, think, live based on your Job and Salary. you enjoy your identification with your profession. Now your Career is your God, not God is your God. You are Idol worshiping your Career.

Here is a Example from Hindu Mythology:
In Mahabaratha, Krishna has a separate episode with Kamsan his uncle.

As per the oracle, Kamsan will be killed by his sister’s son. Kamsan tried to avoid it. But later on, Kamsan comes to know, Krishna is his sister’s son, who escaped from all his efforts to kill him.

Now, Kamsan afraid of death, being killed by Krishna. Every second he thinks about krishna. Wherever he looks he see Krishna’s face. Whatever sound he hears, it seems to be Krishna’s voice. While breathing in and out, he utter the name of Krishna.

Now Kamsan’s god is Krishna, because Kamsan fills his mind with Krishna. Now Kamsan is doing Idol worshiping.

Shivering/Haunting/Thinking about something other than God more often or always is Idol Worship.

Hope, some how you understand what is Idol worship as prohibited by Quran.

Worshiping statues, images, icons, symbols are not only Idol worship. Of course there are also Idol worship, but Idol worship is not confined to statue worship alone.

If our mind is vibrated by anything other than God is Idol worship.

During Vinayagar Chaturthi or Ganesh Chaturthi, even some muslims also think about the elephant statue.

Some people(hindus) keep thinking about the elephant statue because of Devotion. Some people(muslims) keep thinking about the elephant statue because of angriness and aversion. Both act on the elephant statue based on their emotions.

Whatever may be the emotion but both sections keep thinking about the elephant statue more than anything else. So both are committing the sin Idol Worship during Chaturthi.

Quran contains God’s message to worship God alone, but mistakenly people worship Quran more than God.

Idol worship is a sin happening mostly at thought level when compared to statue worship. Idol worship is committed by people from all the religion including muslims.

If you are a Muslim, not agreeing with the above explanation for Idol Worship, damn sure you have not read Quran at least once in your life time.

Overcome False Fear and Subjective Failure

False fear can spoil your life. Many fears are false or subjective. A man ride his vehicle. He meets an accident. Luckily he survived with small wounds. Next day while driving he gets fear as he may meet accident again. Because of the fear he stops driving. Whenever he try to drive, he gets the driving phobia. This is false fear, it prevents the joy of driving. He has to overcome the false fear, drive normally.

Some time if you see some other getting accident, you may develop a phobia as you too may get accident. This is also a false fear, must be overcome.

Do not get stuck by your failure or fear. Many people quit or give up their study, research, entrepreneurship, and career advancement because of some subjective failure. If you fail in your current project, which is not a verdict as you will fail in rest of the projects.

When I was promoted to Manager, I did well. I received whole hearted support from my management. When I moved to next company, I was not able to perform well as Manager. Due to various office politics, I struggled to be a Manager. Then I started to convince myself as I am not capable of Leading people, I should work as subordinate only, Manager job is a tough, etc. It was a conclusion because of the recent ‘subjective failure’. I forget my past success.

This is actually a false fear. Even there are failures here and there, I have to keep maintaining my position and keep trying to advance it, rather than confining myself within a boundary, due to fear of struggles. Those who are leading, are never stuck by their failure in leading people.

Many executives when promoted to lead people, they may fail to command their sub-ordinates and not having proper chemistry with their superiors. So they may be considered as they are not capable leaders. Even, they may start to convince themselves as they are not. This is a wrong conclusion.

Under a positive situation or different scenario they will perform well. They should not convince themselves as suitable for junior position. They have to keep strive for better position even they are made to fail.

When people fail, they think they can not win for ever. Nothing is permanent. Many failures are subjective. People with lack of awareness believe that failure is permanent. They lead a failure life, even though they are capable of winning.

Identify such false fears. Kill it at the root. Live happily and bravely. This life, human mind, and body are beyond scientific measurements. They can perform any miracle. Just believe you are worthy of how do you like to be.

You may succeed in the past, which is also not a affirmation that you will succeed for ever. So never identify your position by your success and failure. Identify yourself as How do you like to be identified. You deserve what you desire.

Life of Addiction – Silicon Civilization

Addiction is a very important behavior in human life. It is a way to program our brain. Biological to mental many behavior and many things are happening because of addiction only. With or without our awareness we get addicted to many things. Some addictions are good and some are bad. Some addictions are genetically passed.

Once you are get addicted it is very difficult to give up. You must be well aware of ‘Practical Awareness’ to give up any habit or addiction.

From smoking to going late to office everything is addiction only. There are few people who always come lately to office. Because they addicted to ‘going late’. Even they do not know why they are late.

Some people are always happy and some are always sad. Somebody get friction with colleagues, superior, management wherever they work, they get addicted to office politics. Some people will change their job in short intervals, because they get addicted to ‘Job Hopping’.

I am going to discuss some addictions of ‘Silicon Civilization’, which are waste of time and energy.

Browsing Addiction
Browsing addiction which are major addiction to people who work with internet. More than 90% of the browsing is un purpose. Just a digression from why we start browsing.

Many software related people or anybody with access to internet browse in a useless way. For example, you are a web application programmer. You access internet or browse while programming or searching some technical help. But What do you do when you do not have anything to work, you are in ‘bench’. Even now you browse, without your awareness as why you are browsing.

Do not cheat yourself as studying or learning. If you browse one hour per day for learning which will have great impact in your career positively.

Many time, when I was sitting in front of computer without any work. I watched some feelings in my fingers. Even I do not have any purpose to browse, my fingers tempt to type something move the mouse, search something, finally browsing begins. It is because of addiction. If you are addicted to browsing, you will browse even without any true purpose.

Take an observation when you do not have any work and sitting in front of computer with internet access. No purpose of searching or browsing. Now watch and record all your activities. Many browsing are un-necessary. You land in a gaming site or chatting with a ‘friend’ or viewing porn or listen to music or reading this article or checking your email for 76th time.

When you do not have any work, sit in front of computer and try not to touch the key board and mouse at least for one hour. Now you can feel what is ‘addiction’. Some times without your intention your hands will ply over keyboard. Your mind creates so many flimsy reason to browse.

Empty mind is devil’s workshop is 100% true for programmers in bench and people who browse without any purpose. Try not to touch the keyboard for one hour a day while sitting in front of the computer.

Mobile addiction: Some people can not live without using Whatsupp, Facebook. Addicted to Whatsapp, facebook and keep disturbing others. Without any purpose use their study time and office hours to engage in Whatsapp.

In the same way people addicted to talk over mobile phone. The talk is no-stop. They keep talking, words and words. All are useless. Waste of time. Many people get into problem because of addicted to ‘non stop mobile talk’. For the sake of speaking discussing personal things, gossips, creating rumors, bad comments about others. Moreover speaking in public places, without the awareness that others can listen your speech.

Because of the mobile addiction, mobile phone and telephone networking companies are profiting. I heard a news as leading mobile company proprietor do not use mobile phone personally as not necessary to him. Mobile phone addiction is part and parcel of Silicon Civilization.

How to Avoid Emotional Hijack

Emotional Hijack can be avoided by three ways.

1) Emotional Intelligence Quotient( EQ)

2) Ventilate emotions then and there

3) Unconditional love towards rest of the world.

Emotional Intelligence Quotient(EQ)

EQ is about managing your emotions. You should not be explosive in your emotions. You should be having control over expressing your emotions. Top business management people have high EQ. You can not read the emotions or reactions or feelings of the leaders or successful bosses in the world easily.

People having high Emotional Quotient never get hijacked by emotions.

Ventilate emotions then and there

Ventilating emotions then and there will avoid emotional hijack. You are not bottle necking or suppressing any emotions. Even your negative emotions are emptied after expressing it.

This approach is not possible for all the people.

Suppose in your office, your boss or immediate supervisor irritating you. You are angry because of their tossing. You can not express your anger to them then and there. If you do so, you may loose your job. So you have to suppress it behind a smiling face. Once you go home, you can ventilate the latent anger to your family members in some way.

Only the Bosses or leaders or people with the ability to provide can follow this approach – express your emotions then and there.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love will avoid emotional hijack. You will not have negative feelings to suppress by other’s activity. You treat everybody as your child or kid. So you will not get angry or irritated by other’s behavior towards you. So there is no chance for emotional hijack if you follow unconditional love.

Unconditional love is possible to you when you get rid off your inner negatives. Which is not possible for an average people who are obsessed to dodge wealth, health, pride, and other physical and ego needs.

The best way to avoid emotional hijack out of the three approaches is learn and improve your Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ).

The best example for EQ is Black Mamba character in Kill Bill movie. The role was done by Uma Thurman. I am not aware whether Uma Thurman has EQ or not. But her role in Kill Bill I & II can be an example for having EQ.

When she wake up after bed ridden for several years, she does not express her emotions for loosing her lover and child. She does not cry. Till revenging everybody she does not let her emotions blow out.

Even while facing and fighting with the offenders she did not weep or get angry, but she supposed to be like that.

After killing the boss Bill, she returns to home. She cry for what happened so far in her rest room at the end of the movie while her kid watching TV.

She let her emotions when she decide to ventilate. Such control over emotions is perfect EQ.